In this week's installment to Life: How to Get What You Want Out of It, I want to focus on career planning and how to help people prevent an all too common tragedy that occurs from time to time. Sadly, this tragedy has happened to many. You spend 15-20 years working for a company to one day find out your skills are no longer needed, as the newest hotshot has passed you in ability and, subsequently, worth to the company. Often, when you spend so much time doing one type of job, it can be very hard to make any kind of change at that point in your life. It's almost like starting over as a novice in a new field, having to learn all of the different idiosyncrasies of your new position or industry. If this ever happens to you, there are various things you can do to bounce back and have a very productive remainder of your working life, but this week's blog is more focused on how to PREVENT this from ever happening. As the saying goes, an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure, so here are three simple tips that will serve as three "ounces" to keep the lost career cold away.
I.IDENTIFY TRENDS IN THE MARKET (INSIDE AND OUTSIDE OF YOUR INDUSTRY)
One major way to stay ahead of the career curve and not be left on the street trying to hitch a ride back on to the highway of success is to always take the time to read industry magazines and other publications that give insight into what is happening in your industry. The only constant is the world is change, and you have to make sure that you are consistently aware of where the world is headed to be able to identify the next big opportunity. This can also be realized by identify trends in the world in general that could affect your industry and career. You didn't have to be a genius 20 years ago to realize that computers and the internet were going to have a major impact on the world. Making sure that you were computer proficient would've been a no-brainer. If you are a petroleum engineer today, you definitely need to make sure you are well educated in the world of clean energy, as it is only going to be more important and demanded with time. Any time you see commonalities in different clients or customers that could indicate the creation of a trend, the first thing you should think about is HOW will this affect my career in the future and WHAT do I need to do to make sure that I am well positioned to still be an asset to my company/industry if this trends continues.
II.CONSISTENTLY UPGRADE YOUR TALENT AND ABILITY
Now, once you've identified this trend and have a sense of how it will affect your career going forward, the next step is to identify and gain the skills and abilities you will need to hone to put yourself in the best position to be successful. It's amazing how many people there are in the world whose education ended when they formally left school. The super successful are the ones that are always looking for that next class or workshop to improve their skills in some area. They are always reading publications in their field to learn new tips and strategies of how to do their jobs better. By consistently working to attain new talents for use in your career, you put yourselves in the favor of the gods by becoming more and more valuable to your current company. Obtaining a higher level degree in your field or just attending workshops consistently will give your more options and marketability down the road, as well as increase your knowledge base to bring better decision making ability to the table when needed. The person who thinks he/she knows it all is doomed to lose to the person who knows this is never the case.
III. PLAN OUT EACH MOVE STRATEGICALLY IN TERMS OF YOUR LONG TERM GOALS
Once you've identifed the trends and have a sense of what skills you need to obtain/improve to achieve this goal, it's now time to strategically identify where you need to be within or outside of your company to take the most advantage of this reality. Any new position that you are seeking to attain should be planned out a year or two in advance, as you work the political and logistical aspects of making it a reality. For example: You work for a company that has a commercial and residential division, and you are on the residential side. Over time you begin to notice that all of the initiatives for the next year or two seem to focus around the commercial side, and you are hearing that this is where the CEO sees the most profitable growth coming from. Therefore, you need to begin to strategically align yourself with people on that side to prepare to make a change. This could be done through simple networking for subtle connections or by blatantly letting someone know you are interested in making a move. The important thing is to always think three steps ahead to know WHOM you need to talk to about this, WHAT things you need to do to get consideration for this move, and HOW to most efficiently and effectively make this happen.
Your career: It's like a cruel game of chess in which the pieces move, change,and sometimes disappear all the time. This can make it very hard to win, as what worked for your two years ago may not be effective at all today. The key to winning in life (just like in chess), however, is to always think as many steps ahead of your counterparts as possible. The more steps ahead you think, the better chance you have at winning and ensuring that your King is ALWAYS safe from capture.
Ken Middleton is an Account Manager at TEKsystems that specializes in IT staffing and services. He is a graduate of UNC-Pembroke and current MBA student at Scheller College of Business at Georgia Tech.
Saturday, November 23, 2013
Saturday, November 9, 2013
The Importance of Planning - How to Get What You Want Out of Life Series
I have had the pleasure of meeting many people in my life who have various philosophies on ways to live their lives. I am often very intrigued by those individuals who seem to have an allergic reaction to the concept of planning. Anyone who knows me knows I'm a planner. I just don't have this weekend planned out, but I probably have a very good idea of what I am going to do for the next four weekends...easily. It amazes me when you talk to someone who says, "It's only Tuesday, I haven't even thought about this weekend yet." Really? That leads me to believe that you are also the person who thinks, "I'm only 30, I haven't even thought about what my life is going to be like at 50." This is a HUGE mistake and one that many people make in life. I tell people that you need to AT LEAST have a 25-year plan of what your life is going to be like in the future. I actually have a 50-year plan that I'm currently working on. It's not that you have to stick to this plan and never make any changes (I've changed my 50-year plan often as I have matured and different things became more important than they used to be), but you have to have some sense of where you want to go. There are numerous reasons why this is the case.
I. IF YOU DON'T KNOW WHERE YOU'RE GOING, YOU CAN END UP ANYWHERE
This is probably the most obvious and maybe the reason that many people refuse to plan. Some people like the sense of spontaneity that comes with not having anything on the calendar for the weekend, in hopes that something "amazing" will happen. Wouldn't it be much better to just plan something amazing rather than hoping it will occur by happenstance. When you don't plan and don't have a strategic vision for your life, you can end of moving in circles without any true sense of accomplishment. Without focus and an understanding of what you desire to achieve, you could end up taking two steps forward, then three steps to the right, then two steps back and then threes steps to the left. Lo and behold, you are in the same place! Planning allows you to continue to make progress to some goal by understanding what you need to do EACH DAY to continue to move forward. If not, any new thing that crosses your path might distract you and hinder you from continuing to achieving your overall goal.
II. IT HELPS YOU MAKE DIFFICULT DECISIONS
In relation to how planning will help you stay focused on the direction you need to travel, planning will often help you make difficult decisions in life. When you are faced with a tough decision that you are struggling to make, often the question of which decision gets you closer to your ultimate goal can be the determining factor. Those who don't have a plan for their life will often be at the whim of every new fad, person, or situation that presents itself for enjoyment and pleasure. There's nothing wrong with partaking in these things as long as they don't detract from what you are trying to accomplish with your plan, but if you don't know what that plan is, you have no way to make that decision. You have to continually assess each decision that you make from day to day in light of what you ultimately have planned for your life and your family. This will often help you stay out of situations that, more often than not, would hurt rather than help your ultimate goal.
III. MOST PEOPLE DON'T DO IT
I love this reason because it can be related to almost any best practice in life. Just like most people don't read very much, exercise regularly, or eat very healthy, this is probably the biggest reason to do this. While there is enough in this world for everyone to have a fair share, you often are in competition for everything you can achieve against someone else. It's the nature of the world in which we live, and to have more than what others have you must be willing to do MORE than what others are willing to do. The Pareto Principle speaks of how, economically, 20 percent of the world's population owns 80 percent of the world's wealth. I would venture to guess there is a strong correlation between that 20 percent of the world and the percentage of people who plan out their lives and have a strategic vision for their future. By planning out your life, you have a much better chance of being part of this privileged minority.
Planning. It's something that many people don't like to do because it often takes a little bit of brain power to work out, so people would rather just "see what happens" in life. However, it is those individuals who strategically understand what they desire 25-50 years from now and have worked out a plan to achieve it who will do laps around those who don't. Henry Ford said that "Thinking is the hardest work there is which is probably the reason why so few engage in it." Take the time to think and plan out your life to put yourself in the "favor of the gods" and live a life of ultimate achievement. Therefore, next Tuesday when someone ask you what you're doing for the weekend, don't just say "I don't know" as most people do, but rather, "Let me THINK about that and get back to you." Your future self with thank you.
Saturday, October 26, 2013
Continuous Improvement - How Do You Do It?
Last week, we discussed the importance of continuous improvement in one's life and how, as individuals, we will be able to slowly climb the hill of successful accomplishment by utilizing the various ropes, picks, and other tools at our disposal. This week, I will share with you what some of these ropes, picks, and other tools are and relay a plan of how to utilize these instruments of achievement to engineer your successful attainment of the mountain top and ultimate success. I will outline this by giving you an easy three step plan that, if followed, will guide your steps of focus on your career path like a GPS on over-priced and sometimes bug-infested smartphone.
Step I: Identify whom you desire to be 25 years from now
I know when you read this, you are thinking 25 years! I don't even know whom I desire to be next week! It's okay. The mark of a mature man/woman is one who has the ability to be flexible and change in consideration of changing circumstances and expectations. You don't have to have a 25 year plan set in stone, but you should have some sense of what you want to accomplish in the next 25 years. When you think of what you want to accomplish, the first thing you must consider in conjunction to this is whom is the person you need to become to accomplish those things. You don't have to plan out everything perfectly but just have a general overview of what would be able to do, what your life would look like, and how others will see you. When you have this view, you must then reverse engineer the vision and put together a plan that will allow you to slowly get to this place in your life. For example, if you desire to be a politician who is working on a national stage, then you need to start today to implement strategies that are going to put you in the best position to make this a reality. If you desire to be a well-known playwright or author, you must begin working today to start chipping at the next great work of literature. You should think about whom you desire to be holistically as well - not just in relation to your career and what you desire to accomplish, but also, what kind of overall demeanor do you possess. What things are you well-versed in from a worldly standpoint? Where have you been and what have you seen? You must consider the ENTIRE package in relation to the person you will be to work on your complete person.
Step II: Create a plan to work on becoming this person
Now once you have decided whom you need to be, it is time to reverse engineer what you need to do to become that person. Picking the various aspects of your life in which you desire to be successful, you must then break each of them down to specific actionable items that you can then put into place to begin to work towards that goal. For example, if you desire to be a well known politician in 25 years with aspirations on the White House, the first thing you need to do is to consider getting a degree in law or political science and then begin voraciously reading what is going on in the political world. If you desire to be a world class author and playwright, the first step may be to take a professional writing course to make sure this is truly your passion. Whatever your desire, you need to make sure to do something everyday that is working towards that goal. I would even go so far as to take the time to write out the actions that you desire to accomplish and then begin to check them off as you reach them. This will give you the motivation to continue to stay focused on the task and end goal even when things may become a little tough and challenging. Having a visual cue of what you desire to accomplish is always a great way to remain dedicated at all times.
Step III: Execute!
This is the one thing that the majority of us fail to do. Many talk a good game, and some can even get to the point that they may put it on paper, but it is the actual ability to execute that is the great divide between the achievers and the non-achievers. While being able to plan out your future may take long-term thinking, the actual ability to execute is greatly enhanced if one is more short-term in his/her thinking, forgetting what was done yesterday and what might be done tomorrow. Let me explain, often when we are faced with a decision, we think about when was the last time we did it and how that made us feel. If it was recent and we feel we did a good job of it, we have the tendency to give ourselves a "pass" for the current situation which we are in. If we feel we have the opportunity to do it again later down the road, we will also give ourselves a "pass" as we will tell ourselves we'll give it DOUBLE the effort later. You have to stop this. To be able to execute consistently, don't consider what you did yesterday or what you plan to do tomorrow. Just think about if you should or should not be doing something right now, and if that answer is yes, just begin doing it at that time. Don't think about if you are going to do it again tomorrow. Don't think about how many times you have done it in the past. Just stay focused on doing it at that single moment in time. Nine times out of ten, it will be much easier than you anticipated, and often, 10 times out of 10, you will be so glad you did.
Continuous improvement. It is not an easy task, which is why many of us never see this as a mandate for our lives. For that reason, anyone who has the foresight and intelligence to understand the great advantage this will give over them in the game of life will receive great benefit from it. While the road will not be easy (hence why so few people do it), the rewards of achievement and success will yield results that will dwarf the amount of work that was put in to achieve them. When would be the best time to begin this, you ask? How about RIGHT NOW.
Step I: Identify whom you desire to be 25 years from now
I know when you read this, you are thinking 25 years! I don't even know whom I desire to be next week! It's okay. The mark of a mature man/woman is one who has the ability to be flexible and change in consideration of changing circumstances and expectations. You don't have to have a 25 year plan set in stone, but you should have some sense of what you want to accomplish in the next 25 years. When you think of what you want to accomplish, the first thing you must consider in conjunction to this is whom is the person you need to become to accomplish those things. You don't have to plan out everything perfectly but just have a general overview of what would be able to do, what your life would look like, and how others will see you. When you have this view, you must then reverse engineer the vision and put together a plan that will allow you to slowly get to this place in your life. For example, if you desire to be a politician who is working on a national stage, then you need to start today to implement strategies that are going to put you in the best position to make this a reality. If you desire to be a well-known playwright or author, you must begin working today to start chipping at the next great work of literature. You should think about whom you desire to be holistically as well - not just in relation to your career and what you desire to accomplish, but also, what kind of overall demeanor do you possess. What things are you well-versed in from a worldly standpoint? Where have you been and what have you seen? You must consider the ENTIRE package in relation to the person you will be to work on your complete person.
Step II: Create a plan to work on becoming this person
Now once you have decided whom you need to be, it is time to reverse engineer what you need to do to become that person. Picking the various aspects of your life in which you desire to be successful, you must then break each of them down to specific actionable items that you can then put into place to begin to work towards that goal. For example, if you desire to be a well known politician in 25 years with aspirations on the White House, the first thing you need to do is to consider getting a degree in law or political science and then begin voraciously reading what is going on in the political world. If you desire to be a world class author and playwright, the first step may be to take a professional writing course to make sure this is truly your passion. Whatever your desire, you need to make sure to do something everyday that is working towards that goal. I would even go so far as to take the time to write out the actions that you desire to accomplish and then begin to check them off as you reach them. This will give you the motivation to continue to stay focused on the task and end goal even when things may become a little tough and challenging. Having a visual cue of what you desire to accomplish is always a great way to remain dedicated at all times.
Step III: Execute!
This is the one thing that the majority of us fail to do. Many talk a good game, and some can even get to the point that they may put it on paper, but it is the actual ability to execute that is the great divide between the achievers and the non-achievers. While being able to plan out your future may take long-term thinking, the actual ability to execute is greatly enhanced if one is more short-term in his/her thinking, forgetting what was done yesterday and what might be done tomorrow. Let me explain, often when we are faced with a decision, we think about when was the last time we did it and how that made us feel. If it was recent and we feel we did a good job of it, we have the tendency to give ourselves a "pass" for the current situation which we are in. If we feel we have the opportunity to do it again later down the road, we will also give ourselves a "pass" as we will tell ourselves we'll give it DOUBLE the effort later. You have to stop this. To be able to execute consistently, don't consider what you did yesterday or what you plan to do tomorrow. Just think about if you should or should not be doing something right now, and if that answer is yes, just begin doing it at that time. Don't think about if you are going to do it again tomorrow. Don't think about how many times you have done it in the past. Just stay focused on doing it at that single moment in time. Nine times out of ten, it will be much easier than you anticipated, and often, 10 times out of 10, you will be so glad you did.
Continuous improvement. It is not an easy task, which is why many of us never see this as a mandate for our lives. For that reason, anyone who has the foresight and intelligence to understand the great advantage this will give over them in the game of life will receive great benefit from it. While the road will not be easy (hence why so few people do it), the rewards of achievement and success will yield results that will dwarf the amount of work that was put in to achieve them. When would be the best time to begin this, you ask? How about RIGHT NOW.
Saturday, October 12, 2013
The Art of Continuous Improvement - Why Is It Important?
Life - It has a funny way of creeping up on us, doesn't it? One day, you are running in your mom's front yard, chasing the family pet without a care in the world and the next moment, you are trying to juggle your work, family, and monetary responsibilities so you don't drown in the sea of ever-changing things you have to do. It's interesting because, as we get older, and have more and more responsibilities hoisted upon our plate like a large spaghetti dish at our favorite Italian restaurant, we have a tendency to forget about ourselves in some way. I'm not saying forget about ourselves in the since that you don't know if you are alive or not (however, you can argue that in some unhappy household/marriages, this is INDEED the case), but I mean that we rarely have time to take a minute to reflect on what we desire for our future and how we can get there. We get so caught up in the hustle and bustle of every day, that we forget, "What do WE want." In this first of a multi-segment series on LIFE (How to Get What You Want), I start with a concept that many people never consider once they graduate college and move on from the late night beer parties and suite shindigs - Improvement.
Now, I'm not saying that we don't consider improvement once we graduate college at all. Many people work to get better at their jobs so they can make more money as they climb the sometimes greased corporate ladder. Many of us, however, forget what it was like when we were young and we wanted to get better at EVERYTHING. We wanted to be sing better, run faster, and dress nicer. Everything that we saw older people do, we wanted to aspire to get to that level. What occurs, however, once we reach a certain level of acceptance from our peers, i.e. you look, dress, act, and interact like most people, we stop trying to get better at these things because we think we've made it. The stark reality of this situation, however, is that, while we may not look like a dork in our attire (some of us, that is) or be socially awkward in most situations (once again, this is NOT all of us), there is still much room for improvement in our lives. It is my belief that you should have this same child like approach to life and try to get better at EVERYTHING for your future. There are a few simple reasons why:
IF YOU'RE NOT GETTING BETTER, YOU'RE GETTING WORST
This is one of those statements that sounds a little crazy when you first hear it, but it actually makes sense. Think about it: if you aren't consistently working to improve some skill, whether it is writing, singing, or dancing, etc, doesn't it naturally atrophy over time? There are so many things that we get "okay" at in life, that we just stop trying to work to get better at. Rather it's being a better father, husband, or (cough) lover, sometimes we get so comfortable when we reach a certain point, that we just stop trying to improve. What occurs when we do this is that all those involved on the other side don't have as much (or any) excitement at the interaction because it may have become so predictable and "regular" that there is nothing to be excited about. If you desire to be great at anything, you have to consistently work on it to get better, or you'll get into a rut and everyone will know it.
LIFE IS ABOUT HAVING SOMETHING TO SHOOT FOR
Remember when you were a kid and the only thing you desired was to achieve that next goal in your life? Whether it was to get your license, go to college, or make the varsity basketball, when we were younger, we consistently dreamed about the future. As we get older, however, we start to only think about today, and, eventually, we even start to live in the past. Continuous improvement will prevent this from happening, as we are always working to achieve some goal in the future for our betterment. Having something in the future to shoot for often gives one greater motivation to attack the day. Some of the most miserable people in lives are those who don't have any goals or hopes of achieving anything in the future. By living a life of continuous improvement in EVERYTHING, you always have some future goal that you are working to achieve, as your target will move further and further out, as you improve.
THE QUALITY OF YOUR LIFE WILL IMPROVE
By attempting to be better at everything you do, you will consistently improve the quality of your daily life. By trying to get down to your "playing weight" again and then working to be in the best shape of your life, you will have more energy and enthusiasm for the day. By working to be better at your job, you have the opportunity for future promotions. By trying to be the best husband/father you can be, you will improve your family interaction and quality time together. Also, by working to get better at something that you've always dreamed of doing, you are fulfilling the natural innate human desire of mastery. This is why so many people appreciate others who are so very good at something. Intrinsically, we are all born with a desire to be an expert in some respect, and by working to continuously improve in all areas, we give us a better chance of making this a reality.
Continuous Improvement - The words bring to mind visions of a Buddhist Temple with the Dalai Lama standing in the background, encouraging one to find enlightenment. While that may be a little too spiritual for some, the concept is very practical and applicable to our everyday lives to reach heights of achievement and joy that most never see because they simply stop trying. And trying (as we know) is half the battle...GI JOE. :-)
Ken Middleton is an Account Manager at TEKsystems that specializes in IT staffing and services. He is a graduate of UNC-Pembroke and current MBA student at Scheller College of Business at Georgia Tech.
Saturday, September 21, 2013
Video Game Danger - Don't Leave It Unsupervised.
Whenever there is a great tragedy as the D.C. Navy Base shooting this past week, everyone begins to search for answers. The big question that we heard this week was WHY did Aaron Alexis, someone whom to many seemed like an ordinary person, would open fire to kill 12 people (seemingly randomly) before being willing to die himself in an all or nothing gun fight with the police. While information is still coming out in this story, there is one piece of information I found particularly interesting. Aaron Alexis was an avid video game player. While I am not saying this was the cause of his decision to kill so many people, I do think there is a link between the increased violence in video games (and movies) and how kids these days relate to death and killing. While I would never suggest to not allow your kids to play these games (I grew up on Resident Evil and Final Fantasy II), I do think that it is the parents' job to decide at what age it is appropriate for their kids to play such games and to make sure they understand ALL the content of the game to decrease the chances of their child becoming another enigma of violence.
While, admittedly, Aaron Alexis broke the psychological profile that I have recently begun to create of these most senseless mass murderers, i.e. John Holmes (Aurora), Adam Lanza (Newtown), and even back as far as Erik Harris and Dylan Klebold (Columbine). At the time of their attacks, they all shared two things in common: 1. They were all under 25 years of age (24, 20, and 18/17, respectively) and they all were all avid gamers. This is not even mentioning Anders Breivik (the 33 year old Norwegian who gunned down 69 people at a political youth camp on the island of Utoya in 2011), who admitted that he used Call of Duty to practice for the killings.
I believe this shows a clear connection between kids who play violent video games and watch violent movies at a young age and these senseless murders throughout the world. What I feel occurs is that parents allow their kids to play these games at an age in which they are not quite mentally capable of completely understanding the severity of what they are playing and they associate the violence of the game with what is acceptable in real life. Many of these games are rated PG-13 or M-17 and parents still tend to ignore these ratings because the video game industry puts in certain parental guidance codes that prevent the game from cursing or showing explicit blood in all scenes. What this doesn't stop, however, is the horrific violence of killing or beating up individuals senselessly. Also, while many parents may think their kids are adhering to these types of rules, many are disengaging this parental control as soon as possible.
To combat this as a parent and ensure that your child doesn't end up as another "unexplained tragedy," parents have basically two choices. 1. Don't buy your kids these violent video games at all. There are a number of sports, fantasy, and educational games that could keep your kid occupied in his/her free time or, better yet, help them discover the joy of reading and increase their intelligence and curiosity rather than killing it with a mindless game. or 2. Have SUPER strict supervision on every game your kids plays to make sure there is nothing in it that could create a negative impact on him/her. Before allowing your kid to play any game, you should read about it, ask around to other parents, and even play the game yourself to ensure there is nothing that you don't want your kid to see, or at least, you are prepared to discuss with him/her to make sure they understand what is occurring and how it relates to the real world.
While there are many who will read this and think this is baloney, I don't think the dead 8-year-old girl, accused of being killed by her 12 year old brother, would think so (Hear about it here), and while it has not been proven that he did it, I would be willing to wager that if he did, he played/watched a significant amount of violent video games or movies at a young age. How else would someone so young be able to do something so deadly and evil? Sometimes the most obvious answer is the one people refuse to believe.
Our world is one in which violence sells. Grand Theft Auto 5 just broke the $1 billion in sales mark in ONLY THREE DAYS. While it is rated M17 (mature), I would guarantee that half of those sales were to kids well under 17, many of them purchased by their parents. Parents, you have a commitment to your child to give them the best environment possible to encourage their intellectual stimulation and growth for the strong creation of the neurotic synapses to be a great analytical thinker. By allowing your kid to spend their time playing video games all day, you are no better than the parent who doesn't have the ability to discipline their child's eating habit so they don't grow up overweight. The major problem with this is that some kids reach a certain point in which it's TOO hard for them to course correct. If your kid falls into any of the information above, I pray it is not too late for them...and us.
Ken Middleton is an Account Manager at TEKsystems that specializes in IT staffing and services. He is a graduate of UNC-Pembroke and current MBA student at Scheller College of Business at Georgia Tech.
While, admittedly, Aaron Alexis broke the psychological profile that I have recently begun to create of these most senseless mass murderers, i.e. John Holmes (Aurora), Adam Lanza (Newtown), and even back as far as Erik Harris and Dylan Klebold (Columbine). At the time of their attacks, they all shared two things in common: 1. They were all under 25 years of age (24, 20, and 18/17, respectively) and they all were all avid gamers. This is not even mentioning Anders Breivik (the 33 year old Norwegian who gunned down 69 people at a political youth camp on the island of Utoya in 2011), who admitted that he used Call of Duty to practice for the killings.
I believe this shows a clear connection between kids who play violent video games and watch violent movies at a young age and these senseless murders throughout the world. What I feel occurs is that parents allow their kids to play these games at an age in which they are not quite mentally capable of completely understanding the severity of what they are playing and they associate the violence of the game with what is acceptable in real life. Many of these games are rated PG-13 or M-17 and parents still tend to ignore these ratings because the video game industry puts in certain parental guidance codes that prevent the game from cursing or showing explicit blood in all scenes. What this doesn't stop, however, is the horrific violence of killing or beating up individuals senselessly. Also, while many parents may think their kids are adhering to these types of rules, many are disengaging this parental control as soon as possible.
To combat this as a parent and ensure that your child doesn't end up as another "unexplained tragedy," parents have basically two choices. 1. Don't buy your kids these violent video games at all. There are a number of sports, fantasy, and educational games that could keep your kid occupied in his/her free time or, better yet, help them discover the joy of reading and increase their intelligence and curiosity rather than killing it with a mindless game. or 2. Have SUPER strict supervision on every game your kids plays to make sure there is nothing in it that could create a negative impact on him/her. Before allowing your kid to play any game, you should read about it, ask around to other parents, and even play the game yourself to ensure there is nothing that you don't want your kid to see, or at least, you are prepared to discuss with him/her to make sure they understand what is occurring and how it relates to the real world.
While there are many who will read this and think this is baloney, I don't think the dead 8-year-old girl, accused of being killed by her 12 year old brother, would think so (Hear about it here), and while it has not been proven that he did it, I would be willing to wager that if he did, he played/watched a significant amount of violent video games or movies at a young age. How else would someone so young be able to do something so deadly and evil? Sometimes the most obvious answer is the one people refuse to believe.
Our world is one in which violence sells. Grand Theft Auto 5 just broke the $1 billion in sales mark in ONLY THREE DAYS. While it is rated M17 (mature), I would guarantee that half of those sales were to kids well under 17, many of them purchased by their parents. Parents, you have a commitment to your child to give them the best environment possible to encourage their intellectual stimulation and growth for the strong creation of the neurotic synapses to be a great analytical thinker. By allowing your kid to spend their time playing video games all day, you are no better than the parent who doesn't have the ability to discipline their child's eating habit so they don't grow up overweight. The major problem with this is that some kids reach a certain point in which it's TOO hard for them to course correct. If your kid falls into any of the information above, I pray it is not too late for them...and us.
Ken Middleton is an Account Manager at TEKsystems that specializes in IT staffing and services. He is a graduate of UNC-Pembroke and current MBA student at Scheller College of Business at Georgia Tech.
Saturday, September 7, 2013
Networking II - How Do You Do It?
As we wrap up the final entry in the Triangle of Success, we have come to the "How to do it" section of networking. When many people think about the concept of networking, they can become slightly overwhelmed and intimidated as they think about what groups to join, how to engage, and what level of commitment to give. In this week's edition of KMM View's, I will give several quick tips that will give you direction/guidance on the best way to make networking "work" for you.
CHOOSE ONLY 2-3 ORGANIZATIONS THAT ARE APPLICABLE TO YOUR FIELD OR INDUSTRY
The reason I only suggest 2-3 is that we only have so much time on our hands. Individuals who think it makes sense to join every networking organization out there hurt themselves because either they spread themselves too thin (and it becomes a major chore for them) or they are not getting the level of interaction needed in each of the groups they are a part of to truly allow their interaction to be meaningful. If you find yourself beginning to resent having to go to a networking event, you probably are in too many or the wrong ones. Pick 2 or 3 organizations that are related to your industry and/or will help you achieve a bigger goal you may have. For example, if you are in the HR industry but desire to move into sales, being a member of SHRM (Society for Human Resource Management) is a given, but you may also want to join a sales organization such as NSN (National Sales Network). This way you can continue to enhance your current career but are also keeping an eye out on how you can build your future career.
BECOME AN OFFICE IN 1 OR 2
After you choose the 2 or 3 organizations in which you will be a member, begin looking for opportunities to serve on a board/committee or as an officer for one or two of these. You definitely don't want to do more than two, as, once again, this could put you at risk of spreading yourself thin and not being able to do a good job. The reason this is important is that when you volunteer for a position within a major organization, you get a chance to showcase a number of skills (organization, project management, relationship management, etc) and you never know who else is also a part of that organization that could be impressed with your abilities and either decide to mentor you or help you to a new position within your own company or a new one. However, you have to make sure that you put yourself in the best position to be successful because if you do a poor job, this could hurt your reputation/brand and negatively impact your future opportunities.
PRACTICE...PRACTICE...PRACTICE
Networking is a not an easy and natural thing to do at times. Some people have the natural gift of "gab" and can be comfortable in any setting. For the rest of us, this can be very awkward as we look for the right things to say and do. However, as with everything in life, the only way to get better is to work at it consistently. This will include things like work on your elevator speech to make sure you can tell someone what you do concisely and in a manner in which they can actually understand. You will also want to work on your active listening skills. The best way to make someone interested in you is to express interest in them. Practice active listening techniques like repeating their statements for clarity, asking good questions, and maintaining strong eye contact. You will be surprised how this will draw people to you and make them feel comfortable talking to you. Also, work on your storytelling ability to help entertain people with humorous accounts of your work, the industry, or anything else that could be interesting. Everybody likes someone who is funny and this will naturally help you make great connections. Toastmasters is a great organization to help with this endeavor, as well as just speaking in general. They have been helping people be more comfortable with speaking for years and are all over the world.
Networking can appear to be tough, but if you make sure you have the right approach and attitude, it can be fun and very helpful to your career. By taking the time to pick the right organizations, become an active member in them, and practice on improving your networking skills consistently, you'll be well on your way to reaping the rewards of your efforts.
Ken Middleton is an Account Manager at TEKsystems that specializes in IT staffing and services. He is a graduate of UNC-Pembroke and current MBA student at Scheller College of Business at Georgia Tech.
CHOOSE ONLY 2-3 ORGANIZATIONS THAT ARE APPLICABLE TO YOUR FIELD OR INDUSTRY
The reason I only suggest 2-3 is that we only have so much time on our hands. Individuals who think it makes sense to join every networking organization out there hurt themselves because either they spread themselves too thin (and it becomes a major chore for them) or they are not getting the level of interaction needed in each of the groups they are a part of to truly allow their interaction to be meaningful. If you find yourself beginning to resent having to go to a networking event, you probably are in too many or the wrong ones. Pick 2 or 3 organizations that are related to your industry and/or will help you achieve a bigger goal you may have. For example, if you are in the HR industry but desire to move into sales, being a member of SHRM (Society for Human Resource Management) is a given, but you may also want to join a sales organization such as NSN (National Sales Network). This way you can continue to enhance your current career but are also keeping an eye out on how you can build your future career.
BECOME AN OFFICE IN 1 OR 2
After you choose the 2 or 3 organizations in which you will be a member, begin looking for opportunities to serve on a board/committee or as an officer for one or two of these. You definitely don't want to do more than two, as, once again, this could put you at risk of spreading yourself thin and not being able to do a good job. The reason this is important is that when you volunteer for a position within a major organization, you get a chance to showcase a number of skills (organization, project management, relationship management, etc) and you never know who else is also a part of that organization that could be impressed with your abilities and either decide to mentor you or help you to a new position within your own company or a new one. However, you have to make sure that you put yourself in the best position to be successful because if you do a poor job, this could hurt your reputation/brand and negatively impact your future opportunities.
PRACTICE...PRACTICE...PRACTICE
Networking is a not an easy and natural thing to do at times. Some people have the natural gift of "gab" and can be comfortable in any setting. For the rest of us, this can be very awkward as we look for the right things to say and do. However, as with everything in life, the only way to get better is to work at it consistently. This will include things like work on your elevator speech to make sure you can tell someone what you do concisely and in a manner in which they can actually understand. You will also want to work on your active listening skills. The best way to make someone interested in you is to express interest in them. Practice active listening techniques like repeating their statements for clarity, asking good questions, and maintaining strong eye contact. You will be surprised how this will draw people to you and make them feel comfortable talking to you. Also, work on your storytelling ability to help entertain people with humorous accounts of your work, the industry, or anything else that could be interesting. Everybody likes someone who is funny and this will naturally help you make great connections. Toastmasters is a great organization to help with this endeavor, as well as just speaking in general. They have been helping people be more comfortable with speaking for years and are all over the world.
Networking can appear to be tough, but if you make sure you have the right approach and attitude, it can be fun and very helpful to your career. By taking the time to pick the right organizations, become an active member in them, and practice on improving your networking skills consistently, you'll be well on your way to reaping the rewards of your efforts.
Ken Middleton is an Account Manager at TEKsystems that specializes in IT staffing and services. He is a graduate of UNC-Pembroke and current MBA student at Scheller College of Business at Georgia Tech.
Saturday, August 24, 2013
Networking - Why it is NOT an option
Vacation, work, and just "stuff" have kept me from touching base with you all the last three weeks, but I'm back and ready to wrap up this four part series on the Triangle of Success. To do a quick recap, the foundation begins with Education, often the base of the success of anyone. From there we discussed the importance of Branding Building and how you must be cognizant of it and control it at all times. Third, we focused on Political Savvy and how it's not just for government officials. And now, we will end this with the last part of the Triangle of Success: Networking.
For many, networking is something to do when one is looking for a job. It stays in the back of individuals' minds from time to time, as something they "should" do, but they always feel they don't have enough time to do so. That is, until they lose their job for whatever reason, and then they have ALL THE TIME IN THE WORLD. The problem with this is that it will not be anywhere near as effective during this time since your focus will be on finding a job and not just making great connections. Also, if one had done this earlier, it is very likely that she/she would not be looking for a job in the first place. There are three general reasons why one should make networking a priority, regardless of how little time he or she may.
IT'S NOT WHAT YOU KNOW...
This is the age old adage that still is very applicable to our world today. Networking allows you to make connections with individuals that you may never have had the opportunity to meet at all. These individuals could results in mentor/mentoring opportunities, new employment opportunities, or just good connections that will help grow your brand throughout your geographic area. At various networking events, you could meet a high level executive who may think you are just the person they have been looking for in relation to a new strategic initiative or project they are kicking off. You may run into someone who is just what you're company is looking for and could have the opportunity to help someone else out. Networking opens up your world to a whole slew of people that could bring positiveness to you in a number of different ways.
IT'S IMPROVES YOUR SOCIAL SKILLS
Many individuals do not desire to go to networking events because they feel rather awkward walking up to a stranger and holding a conversation. It can be difficult to strike up an engaging conversation with someone you have never met before because there is a lack of familiarity with what makes this person tick and what are their specific interests. There are a few people that have mastered this technique, and it pays dividends for them in their ability to read people quickly and react to them appropriately in various situations. This is a skill that will make you great at many things in life, with one of those things being your job. You will only improve this by going to networking events and working through the awkwardness to get better. Just like dancing, when you first started, it will be somewhat awkward and embarrassing. However, (if you were lucky), you were a kid when you learned to dance and didn't care because you were having fun. Have this same mentality at networking events. Just have fun in getting to know new people. You may not be perfect in the first few events you attend, but as you work on your networking craft and improve, the payoff will come.
IF YOU DON'T DO IT, YOU'RE PUTTING YOURSELF AT A HUGE DISADVANTAGE
I like to generally stay positive when it comes to giving advice on certain things, but this is just a reality. Every day, the working world is realizing the importance of networking more, and if you are someone who refuses to participate in it because of your lack of time or interest, you are at a big disadvantage to those individuals who are making it an integral part of their career strategy. They are making the contacts and connections that are putting them in place for promotions or opportunities within other companies that you may be as, or even more, qualified. If you continue to ignore this important part of a long term strategic vision for your career, you will be sorely left behind by others, as they move to the C-suite and you stay within middle management, if not lower.
Networking isn't easy (especially at first) and can be somewhat intimidating at times. However, if you make the commitment to make time for it and work at getting better, it can become a fun and entertaining event, as you make great contacts and friends, while advancing your career at the same time.
Next week, I'll wrap up the four part seriess of the Triangle of Success by sharing with your exactly HOW to plan and execute a strategic network attack. Until then, Happy Networking.
Ken Middleton is an Account Manager at TEKsystems that specializes in IT staffing and services. He is a graduate of UNC-Pembroke and current MBA student at Scheller College of Business at Georgia Tech.
For many, networking is something to do when one is looking for a job. It stays in the back of individuals' minds from time to time, as something they "should" do, but they always feel they don't have enough time to do so. That is, until they lose their job for whatever reason, and then they have ALL THE TIME IN THE WORLD. The problem with this is that it will not be anywhere near as effective during this time since your focus will be on finding a job and not just making great connections. Also, if one had done this earlier, it is very likely that she/she would not be looking for a job in the first place. There are three general reasons why one should make networking a priority, regardless of how little time he or she may.
IT'S NOT WHAT YOU KNOW...
This is the age old adage that still is very applicable to our world today. Networking allows you to make connections with individuals that you may never have had the opportunity to meet at all. These individuals could results in mentor/mentoring opportunities, new employment opportunities, or just good connections that will help grow your brand throughout your geographic area. At various networking events, you could meet a high level executive who may think you are just the person they have been looking for in relation to a new strategic initiative or project they are kicking off. You may run into someone who is just what you're company is looking for and could have the opportunity to help someone else out. Networking opens up your world to a whole slew of people that could bring positiveness to you in a number of different ways.
IT'S IMPROVES YOUR SOCIAL SKILLS
Many individuals do not desire to go to networking events because they feel rather awkward walking up to a stranger and holding a conversation. It can be difficult to strike up an engaging conversation with someone you have never met before because there is a lack of familiarity with what makes this person tick and what are their specific interests. There are a few people that have mastered this technique, and it pays dividends for them in their ability to read people quickly and react to them appropriately in various situations. This is a skill that will make you great at many things in life, with one of those things being your job. You will only improve this by going to networking events and working through the awkwardness to get better. Just like dancing, when you first started, it will be somewhat awkward and embarrassing. However, (if you were lucky), you were a kid when you learned to dance and didn't care because you were having fun. Have this same mentality at networking events. Just have fun in getting to know new people. You may not be perfect in the first few events you attend, but as you work on your networking craft and improve, the payoff will come.
IF YOU DON'T DO IT, YOU'RE PUTTING YOURSELF AT A HUGE DISADVANTAGE
I like to generally stay positive when it comes to giving advice on certain things, but this is just a reality. Every day, the working world is realizing the importance of networking more, and if you are someone who refuses to participate in it because of your lack of time or interest, you are at a big disadvantage to those individuals who are making it an integral part of their career strategy. They are making the contacts and connections that are putting them in place for promotions or opportunities within other companies that you may be as, or even more, qualified. If you continue to ignore this important part of a long term strategic vision for your career, you will be sorely left behind by others, as they move to the C-suite and you stay within middle management, if not lower.
Networking isn't easy (especially at first) and can be somewhat intimidating at times. However, if you make the commitment to make time for it and work at getting better, it can become a fun and entertaining event, as you make great contacts and friends, while advancing your career at the same time.
Next week, I'll wrap up the four part seriess of the Triangle of Success by sharing with your exactly HOW to plan and execute a strategic network attack. Until then, Happy Networking.
Ken Middleton is an Account Manager at TEKsystems that specializes in IT staffing and services. He is a graduate of UNC-Pembroke and current MBA student at Scheller College of Business at Georgia Tech.
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